You are under no obligation to look pretty.
So, I saw this reminder the other day. Which is funny because it's something that's been on my mind lately. To me, self care doesn't mean putting on makeup, getting dolled up, and going out. And when you don't have on makeup or look slightly disheveled, people ask what's wrong? are you sick? are you sad? It's really rather annoying. Does that make women who like that wrong? No! As women, all of these different obligations should be self-inflicted. No one else should ever make us feel like we're doing it wrong. It's the same thing as parents. I tend to wake up earlier on weekends when the kids are here, then I do on the weekdays. I tend to be more productive and eat healthier while they're here because I want that for them. I tend to look for the next activity or project for them to participate in. These are the pains I have weekly about being enough. That spins me into a cycle of mental unrest. I'm sure you other mamas ...